A woman's irresistible desire that can be read from "clothes and accessories"
■ Visconti films teach us the deep psychology behind women's clothing
Luchino Visconti, a film director who has received such high praise among Western film fans, has a masterpiece called ``The Heroes Who Fell into Hell.''
This is a story about the decline of a steel baron family in the midst of the rise of Nazi Germany, and near the end there is a scene that beautifully expresses the deep psychology of women. So I would like to introduce it here.
Of the family that had already been torn apart by Hitler, only the eldest daughter and her husband tried to prolong their lives by actively cooperating with the Nazis.
However, even these people were only temporarily spared, and in the end, they were cornered to the point where they had to take their own lives.
The two appear in front of the Nazi soldiers lined up just before they drink the poison in the alcohol, but the wife's dress and the jewelry she wears are nothing short of gorgeous. was.
After making an impression on the soldiers, the two men lie down on the bed in their bedroom and die quietly.
His wife's family is aristocratic.This honorable family is on the verge of collapse, being overrun by the rising power of Hitler.
Amatsusa even sold his soul to these people, who he really hated, out of desperation for his life.
At this rate, I can't die even if I die.I think that's probably what she thought.So, in order to regain her proud self and make her death less ugly, she dressed herself in formal attire befitting her aristocratic lineage.
However, to put it the other way around, her heart was so poisoned by the poison of desolation that she could not be supported without relying on clothes such as dresses and jewelry.
This is precisely the reason why I think it so beautifully depicts the deep psychology of women.
Having lost her pride and self-confidence as an aristocrat, she is effectively no longer an aristocrat.Therefore, she wants to regain her aristocratic spirit once again by at least dressing like an aristocrat.
He desperately wanted to be seen as an aristocrat by those around him.It's truly sad behavior, but I think this is a common ``sexuality'' among women, regardless of whether they are in the East or the West.
It is often said that ``clothes are your second skin,'' and I think this phrase is an important point when reading a woman's deep psychology.
This is because clothing acts as a mirror that accurately reflects the personality and psychological state of the person wearing it.
This tendency is especially noticeable for women, and it is because Visconti was well aware of this that he was able to create the excellent scenes that were worthy of the climax of the film I introduced earlier.
■ Clothes and accessories are an extension of a woman's "self"
As I have said many times before, I think that women are generally extremely timid when it comes to openly revealing their true feelings and true nature.
Therefore, in order to cover this up, we try to make the surface layer that is visible to others as thick as possible.I believe the same psychology is at work when it comes to clothing.
In other words, we are trying to create another version of ourselves by covering our real, naked selves with clothing, which is our "second skin."This also reflects women's ``desire to transform'', the idea that they can become anything by just changing their clothes.
However, as I mentioned earlier, clothing is a mirror that reflects the person wearing it, so the more you pretend to hide your nakedness, the more the deeper layer underneath becomes visible.
For example, someone who knows women's psychology will notice that a woman is dressed up in high-end branded goods, including not only clothes but also accessories, handbags, and even small items. It's like walking around.
Men often show their true feelings to others in business settings, so they are less likely to get hung up on their appearance, such as their clothes, regardless of their first impression.
However, unlike men, women are less likely to be ignored in social relationships, and as a result, they tend to make a direct connection between their appearance and their true nature.
In short, women have a strong tendency to assume that if someone wears something that is considered high-class in society, then the inside is equally high-class.
Therefore, conversely, the more a woman wants to be seen as a high-class person by those around her, the more likely she is to prefer branded products.Another thing that can be seen through women's brand orientation is their "inferiority complex."
For example, this type of woman seems to be common among women who work in nighttime entertainment districts.Most of these women, even on holidays, wear extremely luxurious clothes when they go out in public, with a parade of brand-name items.
It is speculated that this is not only because of their large incomes, but also because deep down in their minds, they have a sense of inferiority that is more or less nestled in their minds.
It is also thought that by wearing expensive clothes and accessories, these women try to somehow make themselves stand out and suppress their feelings of inferiority.
In psychology, this behavior is called "compensation."The reason why these women turn to brand-name products is probably not unrelated to their deep-seated psychology of trying to cover up their inner feelings of inferiority.
From the above, I hope you can understand what I mean when I say that a woman who protects herself with branded goods is the same as walking around naked.
However, in terms of feelings of inferiority and compensation, there are countless cases in which it can be read from the "second skin".
For example, women who prefer masculine clothing tend to compensate for their lack of confidence in their appearance by distancing themselves from feminine fashion.
In addition, there are many women who lack confidence in their appearance and intentionally dress in bold clothes, such as wearing ultra-miniskirts, in an effort to compensate for their weaknesses.
To put it simply, a person's true feelings are nothing but their "ego."Women try to hide this ego even more than men by using the power of clothing, but as you can see, they end up exposing it.
In psychology, this phenomenon in which certain external acts, such as clothing, reveal a person's internal ego is called an ``extended ego'' or an ``extended ego.''
In other words, for women, their "second skin" such as clothing and accessories is an "extension of their ego."
■ A woman's sexual desire can be seen through her clothes
When a man reads a woman's deeper layers, one of the things he most wants to know is her true feelings, such as what kind of desires and desires she has regarding the topics he is interested in, such as love and sex. I think it's cool.
Many women express these things by touching parts of their bodies, such as their lips, ears, or hair.
In this sense, even clothes, which are a "second skin," often contain signs from her regarding love and sexuality, acting as a substitute for the physical body.
"Aoba Shigeru", written by playwright Hisashi Inoue and based on his own high school life, is a hilarious coming-of-age novel in which the main character's bad friend invites a female student to a mountain in the back of the mountain and forces her to have a relationship with him. The story of trying and failing was hilarious.
The bad friend succeeds in putting his hand under her resisting skirt, but when he removes her underwear, she is shocked.
Surprisingly, she was wearing a swimsuit under her underwear.Of course, this was just her way of repelling men in case of an emergency, and in the end, this cane to keep her from falling proved to be extremely effective.
Even if this high school girl is a little over-the-top, she is a sexually guarded woman who has no choice in the way she dresses.
For example, on a date, a woman who buttons her blouse tightly to her throat and does not expose her neck or chest at all may not be able to have sex with the other man, even if they have been together for a long time. I think it's safe to say that you feel a great deal of anxiety and hesitation about having a relationship.
Also, these women often do not change their clothes in front of men, even if it is unconsciously.
This is because these movements are what American psychologist Dr. Schefflen calls ``acts of grooming,'' and according to his theory, they are nothing more than a display of sex appeal to men. .
Conversely, a woman who casually adjusts her clothes in front of a man could be said to be tacitly making sexual advances by showing off her "feminine charm."
As already mentioned, women's clothing is their "second skin" and an "extension of their ego."Some women look genuinely happy when their clothes are complimented, but this is because they enjoy the comfort of having their egos tickled and at the same time enjoy the pleasure of having their second skin caressed. But there is.
Therefore, the more these women are complimented about their clothes, the more pleasure they feel, and it is quite possible that they will open up to the man who brings them that feeling.
■ Get a clear idea of women's image of color
The last thing I would like to add about how to read the deeper meaning of a woman's clothing is her preference for color.Recently, the marriage information industry targeting men and women of appropriate age using computer systems seems to be very popular.
I'll leave the psychological analysis of this trend for another time, but what arouses my interest here is that the compatibility tests conducted by various institutions always include an item related to "color." It's a point.
Personality is probably reflected in color preferences, but regardless of its validity, I think it's worth knowing about women's tendencies as a way to get to know a woman's deeper side.
According to a survey by a certain organization called Databank, women who prefer red are ``young people who desire wealth.''Specifically, they are dissatisfied with their daily lives, have a high desire to find a partner, are sensitive to trends, are active, and tend to be moody.
Regarding women who prefer red, I would like to introduce the following analysis of the temperament of women who like the color red by a scholar named Faber Baren, who is an authority on color science.
“Love and hate, kindness and cruelty coexist, and they do not understand the meaning of the word ``indifference.'' No matter how quiet they appear on the surface, they are energetic and defiant on the inside. Sympathy for others. He has a heart, but his interests shift easily.
Basically, he is an optimist.Women who like red are said to be extremely prone to anything, and I think we can get a glimpse of that from the two data presented here.
Continuing with the results of a survey conducted by a certain data bank, women who prefer green are analyzed to be ``steady mom types.''Characteristics shown include being positive about the status quo, serious and cautious, patient and hardworking, and methodical and prudent in how they spend their money.
I will limit my introduction to the analysis of color preferences and women's personalities here, but please consider this as a reference only.
When trying to read a woman's deeper feelings based on her color preferences, the important thing is to have a firm grasp of what kind of image she has about that color.
If a playgirl who likes the color red because it has an ``adventurous'' image changes to green, which is a ``down to earth mother type'' color, then that is a sign that ``it's time to seriously think about marriage.'' It might be.
■ We have picked up a collection of examples of how to discern a woman's true nature from her clothes and accessories.
*Women wear luxury brands because they want to be seen as high-class.
*Women who like big bags tend to see men as cohabitants rather than love objects.
*Women who like the color red are extremely prone to anything.
*Women who like green are prudent and have a systematic way of spending money.
*If a woman starts to want to wear yellow clothes, you can think of it as a "yellow signal" that her frustration is increasing.
*Women who go on dates wearing blouses that are buttoned up to the throat feel anxious about having sexual relations with men.
*Women who dress like men have a complex.
*When a woman changes her clothes in front of a man, it is an implicit invitation to him.
*Women who enjoy being complimented on the color and style of their clothes are sexually sensitive.
So, for the next talk, I would like to talk about ``A woman's makeup is a mirror that reflects a woman's heart.''