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Question date: 2023/03/22 00:23

This is a story that has passed a long time ago, but I'm wondering how I should have answered it now, so I'm asking you all.

There is a person who I met for the first time around June of the year before last on this site.During the discussion, I was asked how about 6 for adults, so I agreed because it wasn't a bad condition.After having dinner with him that day, I became an adult.
The next time we met was around August.
Basically, I'm the one who treats and treats me, so when I get home, I send thank-you emails like "Thank you for today..." I am telling everyone I meet.
However, the person I met at that time did not contact me even once after I sent an e-mail.
Then, at the end of the year, I suddenly got an email from him. (It was a long time ago, so my memory is vague, but the content of the email is similar.)
“Hello.
I emailed him after we met in August, but he didn't reply and now, after four months, he asked me to meet with him for half the promised allowance.
He's certainly a successful dad, so maybe he's been busy.However, I was left alone for 4 months without any news, and I was full of anger at that time because it was less than the allowance I had promised at the beginning.
"I'm sorry because it's not what I promised, but I can't. It's difficult for me to meet you if I don't show up at 6 as I promised. If you don't agree with the terms, please ignore me and delete my contact information."
I will try to return it as politely as possible.
after that,
"I want to see you again because you are cute. Please contact me if you reconsider."
I came back.

I'm not very good looking and I'm not good at talking.But I don't have money, so even if the market price is going down, we discussed that we would meet at the promised allowance. I didn't have time to listen.

If you were in the same situation, how would you react?
It's already been a long time, so I'm going to connect it from now on.

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question answerAnswers: 6

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Aya

3 or something like flattering an unmannered man who can't even reply to emails...

Impossible.I think that there is no problem with immediate blog.

  • Answer date: 2023/03/22 01:29
Male member

Taro

Didn't that man just meet in the sense of sexual desire processing?Even if he receives a thank-you e-mail, he doesn't reply.The relationship is a little too weak.I think it's a price cut negotiation under the circumstances.So, with a man who doesn't have any empathy, but considering the situation, such as having sex, there is a sense of security to some extent. I think you should just reply.

I think it would have been better if the reply was simpler, "I would like to meet you if the conditions were the same as before, but it would be difficult under those conditions."Also, you don't have to worry about this or that, since you're a man of that level, the correct answer is to go fresh without needing to use extra energy.

In general, it is better to focus on actions rather than words.Even if you say something nice to your ears, it's useless if it's not accompanied by action. "Cute" and "beautiful" are social terms. It's better to think that "I like you" and "I love you" that Japanese men say are pretty shallow.What matters is whether it is accompanied by action.In addition, it is even better to think from the other person's point of view and objectively consider what the person is gaining from their actions and situations.If you can do that, you will be able to read the "war situation" from a bird's-eye view.I can't do it right away, but I think it's beneficial to think with that awareness.

Also, I think that a dating club should be a place where people can communicate with each other, but it is also a draft area where men who use it as amateurs and women who approach it as an amateur cabaret club are mixed.So, when you meet such a person, I think it's good to try to keep your mental state in mind so that you don't exhaust your mental energy.

We hope for your reference.

Taro

  • Answer date: 2023/03/22 01:25
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Kazu

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② isn't it?

I don't think a promise can be said to be a promise when one of them offers to change it.If you really want to use the word "promise", I think it would be better to call it "previous promise".

I don't know how I would have reacted, but I think I would either reply with something like, "I don't want to meet you even if I lower the conditions. I'm sorry."

Come to think of it, when I met a woman who contacted me for the first time in half a year, she asked me to double the allowance each time.She personally thought, ``Aren't you stupid?'' and said, ``Why did you think I was doubling my allowance when there was nothing between us that would have doubled my allowance? Is it?” I replied.

Then I was blocked by the woman (laughs).
This woman gave me the block for my memorable first line.

  • Answer date: 2023/03/22 02:14
Male member

Die

I do sometimes, but you should stop using the expression "Meet me on this site".

The Dating Club is different from the Papa Katsu App site...

I don't think men who use dating clubs will choose them because they can meet with confidentiality.

Also, let's think that meeting a man who tries to lower his allowance by looking at the market is because he is attracting such a man.

It's more constructive to think about how you can be a better woman than to resent the other man.

  • Answer date: 2023/03/22 06:42
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Mac

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I think XNUMX as well.Neither malice nor seriousness is conveyed.
I can feel your emotions.It must be the guy who touched the heartstrings.It's more interesting to know why the man who presented 3 has such a negative feeling, but I feel that if I dig it up, I won't be able to find anything good, so I'd like you to introspect yourself when you have free time. please look.I think that's the crux of it.
I would like to give some advice on how to proceed from here on out, but it's a normal story, and if you get angry, you'll just get tired, so it's better to just let it go and forget about it.There are many people in the world.

PS
Even if it's 3, the man is lusting for you and offers you "Please" while mixing compliments.You are completely free to refuse it, but if the questioner is angry with negative emotions and asks, "What do you mean?"
Don't forget to say "thank you".It's important to live, not just dad life.

  • Answer date: 2023/03/22 08:42
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Maezawa (Staff)

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"This story ended a long time ago."
Therefore,

②I don't have any malice, but I'm bored so I want to chat

I think that's what it means.

The man signed up for a dating club and met with the questioner
Every time I thought 6 was tight and withdrew, or stopped offering

I am working on the app now.
If it is an app, there are 1 or 2 people, so if it is 3, it will be appreciated.
That's how I started to meet various women in 3

Shouldn't it be 3 at the dating club?
I contacted you thinking

I'm imagining the story.

So I don't think there is room for negotiation.
There was a possibility that if 3 was OK, there would be a story of 2 next time.

I don't think you need to worry about it anymore.

At that time, if you want to meet even in 3, you can meet.
I think it's also good to find a partner who will respond to your wishes without forcing yourself to lower it.

can you convince yourself
don't you regret

I think it's good to think about that.

  • Answer date: 2023/03/22 09:53